Relationship Blog and Radio Hosts Say Communication the Cure for Domestic Abuse and Narcissism

Top Quote Communication is primary to change Domestic Abuse situations say relationship experts Kim and Steve Cooper. People who are competent, confident and secure about their leadership skills practically exude those qualities. End Quote
  • (1888PressRelease) January 25, 2012 - SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA - But not all people who want to be in control are confident secure leaders who feel good about themself. When it comes to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority or incompetency, the insecure person does not so much take control as they become controlling.

    One of the prime factors and personality types typical of an abusive partner committing Domestic Abuse is the controller, explains Kim Cooper, author of books about narcissistic personality disorder and a relationship expert. "One way to spot a controller and tell the difference between a confident leader and a potential Abusive Husband is to pay attention to how he handles stress. Is he sincerely interested in how he can better himself and his situation or does he blame others for his behaviors and actions and their consequences?"

    Another indicator of the potential for Domestic Abuse, or a sign that it is already happening, is Verbal Abuse. Is your partner charming to your friends, giving you a glowing report card as though he is your parent or teacher while berating you behind closed doors?
    There is a difference also between being a leader and a dominator. If you are having a conflict, does he dominate the conversation by interrupting, dismissing or trivializing you by mimicking you in unflattering or childish ways? All of these behaviors are strong indicators that you may have a narcissist on your hands.

    Narcissism is almost always tied to Domestic Abuse. You don't necessarily have to give up on an abusive partner. If you can recognize his behaviors as an indication of underlying deep emotional pain and insecurity you can begin to change the dynamics between you, gain his trust, and reverse the cycle of Domestic Abuse.

    "Abusive husbands almost never start out as bad or dangerous people," says Kim Cooper. "Certainly no one involved in the drama of Domestic Abuse is happy; neither the abuser nor the abused. There is hope because, just as what caused any relationship to deteriorate in the first place was lack of trust and communication, healthy, effective communication that rebuilds trust and true bonding can be learned.

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