Relationship Experts Discuss Co-Dependence's Role In Narcissistic Personality Disorder
For every Narcissistic personality there is a Co-Dependence personality feeding the narcissist's behavior say Kim Cooper, author of Back From the Looking Glass and radio co-host with Steve Cooper of The Love Safety Net internet radio show.
- (1888PressRelease) January 24, 2012 - SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA - "People with NPD, by their very nature, need to have constant reassurance from their mirrors, and when a Narcissist looks in the mirror, there is almost always a Co-Dependence personality in the reflection," says Kim Cooper. Co-dependence means one is relying upon and requires the other person to keep patterns of behaviors even though they are negative or destructive. That is so they keep one another in a state of fear and insecurity, always self-doubting about his or her own worth. If an Abusive Husband belittles his wife, she in turn will "feed" his ego trying to fill in his gaping emptiness so that he feels better and she feels safe. In a Co-Dependence relationship it is also typical to be a rescuer type. Instead of fixing herself, seeing her own controlling behavior, an abused wife unconsciously believes if only she can please the Narcissist she'll feel better. Co-Dependence keeps her from looking at herself because it's less painful to see what needs fixing in another person than it is to face ourselves.
It may take years of suffering Emotional Abuse, Verbal Abuse and even physical violence to recognize Co-Dependence is playing as big a role in the abuse as the Narcissism. But once the pattern of the NPD and Co-Dependence dance is revealed, there are new steps a couple can learn and adopt immediately to begin changing the cycles of an abusive relationship. Kim and Steve Cooper offer clear guidance and support with their books and ongoing dialogues through their website articles and radio talk show.
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